I’ve done this activity a couple of different times with teen girls in my church youth group and it’s been fantastic. Think of a traditional make-your-own-ice-cream-sundae party. . . with a twist! (To give credit where credit is due, I heavily leaned on this post from Dirty Dishes, Messy Kisses as I was planning my own activity. I changed the questions to suit our purposes, but it provided a lot of great inspiration. Check it out!
The first thing you need to do is think of realistic situations your kids are facing, or what you think might come up soon. Come up with about 5-8 different situations. You can make it about anything from eating sugar to cheating on a test. (I have a template here, where you can type them up. To use it, go to “File”, then go to “Make a Copy”. Then you are free to edit it however you’d like.)
Then, come up with three different choices for each situation. You can do a good, bad, or inbetween variety, a good, ok-ish, and ridiculously bad choice set, or really whatever you want to do to keep it meaningful, yet fun and light. Here’s an example of one that we did (It’s a more serious situation, but we had fun ones, too.) :
Make your self a secret key for choices and toppings and don’t let anyone see it. Print out enough copies of the situation worksheet for everyone.
Tell the kids that before they get to make their ice cream sundaes, that they get to do a quick “Choose Your Own Adventure” quiz first. Hand out the worksheets and have them fill them out.
Explain to your group that our life is like a bowl of ice cream- and we get to decide what to do with it. Every choice we make gives us good consequences or bad ones.
Now here’s where YOU have a decision to make: how much ice cream you want to waste!
Option A: You can have a pre-filled worksheet that you rigged with both good and bad answers and walk through the choices with your group- adding the appropriate toppings as you go. We called our sample girl “Sally So-So”. And boy, was her ice cream sundae disgusting! (My fellow Young Women leaders and I opted for this one the second time around.)
Option B: Have the kids bring up their worksheets one at a time and build their sundae according to their choices. Watch them look horrified!
Then let them make a “real” sundae to enjoy. (The first time I did this activity, we asked each of them to take a bite of their “adventure sundae” before they made a real one. The girls started daring each other to eat more . . . and before we knew it, we had girls throwing up in the bathroom! That’s why we went with option A the second time around. 🙂
I love this activity because the kids are so fun to watch during this! It gives pretty immediate feedback as well- so it’s effective in helping the kids see cause and effect. I also love it, because it gives you a chance to train your children on what to do if a difficult situation comes up. (such as the friend wanting you to keep a dangerous secret).
This is not a shaming activity, but a fun, laughing and learning activity. We have so much fun when we do this, and I think it gets our girls thinking about their choices.
Remember: I have a free template for the worksheets here, if you’d like to use it. To make it editable, click “File”, then “Make a Copy”.